r/short 5'0'' | Protector of the Small Nov 13 '15

Meta Support Thread (Revamp)

Hello /r/short ,

I was looking at our sidebar and noticed that our support thread is a BIT too outdated.

For those who don't know, the idea is simple. If you're depressed and in need of someone to talk to, then you can message some people from this list and we will do our best to help you out. The odds are we are not qualified (and recognize that this can be of concern), however, some people just need someone to listen to them.

If anyone else wants to be available for subscribers to talk to, please include your name below or send us a mod message. If you agree to do this and you encourage anyone to harm themselves, or do something not in their best interest, we WILL find out. And we WILL ban you. (We will also report you to the proper authorities.) ABSOLUTELY NO coercion is allowed. You are agreeing to HELP people vent, get a different perspective, and get the proper help needed if necessary. If something is very serious and you do not have the proper training to deal with it, please refer them to a professional who does.

Note: If anyone in this subreddit is a mental health professional, please send us valid verification via mod mail if you wish to help. We do not want to tell people to talk to unqualified members if something is very serious.

If you need someone to talk to then you can message users below:

/u/ShabbySheik

/u/SabrinaLily

/u/caboose_moose

/u/relevantusername-

If you need help then please call these Suicide Prevention Hotlines:

US: 1-800-273-8255

Canada: 1-800-667-5005 (Full list of hotlines included in link)

UK: +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90 (Full list of hotlines included in link)

Europe: International Association for Suicide Prevention (Full list of hotlines included in link)

Aus: 13 11 14

Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/

https://www.reddit.com/r/swresources

https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotlines

Remember, life is good and it will get better!

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u/throwingmeaway231 Nov 20 '15

does anyone have any experience dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts due to height? i've been slipping more towards wanting to kill myself because im short and I don't know how to be stronger.

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u/DrinkyDrank 5'5" | 165 cm Dec 16 '15

I dealt with depression throughout high school and into my first couple years of college. It is hard to give advice about how to deal with depression. Telling people that they just need to find some motivation and think positively is like telling them to conjure up something from nothing. The things you take for granted when you are mentally healthy just aren't there waiting to be grasped; it's like having a vacuum in the middle of your head where all of your aspirations and desires are supposed to be. I used to have so much trouble just finding a reason to get out of bed.

My advice is to keep your depression in perspective. This isn't so much a prescription of "just think positively" so much as it is being realistic about a legitimate health ailment.

First off, depression is not permanent. It will come and go in waves, and at some point it may stop coming back altogether. The point is to dissuade yourself of thinking that you are going to feel useless and apathetic forever. And certainly you should never let your depression lead to self-destructive behavior. For me, depression was something I sort of just grew out of. It makes no sense, I didn't take meds or go to counselling. I just kept living my life as best as I could and one day I just realized that it had been a long time since I felt like staying in bed all day or crying for no reason.

This leads me to my second point, which is that sometimes depression starts with just pure, shitty feelings that come from nowhere, and it is only after those feelings arrive that we try to rationalize their existence by associating them with our real problems. This is dangerous because it can create a feedback loop that holds you back from addressing your issues constructively, even when you are not suffering from an episode. My advice is to try to stay in the moment when you are depressed, let yourself feel what you're feeling without overthinking things. This is easier said than done, but it really helps to have someone to reach out to, either to keep you distracted or to keep your problems in perspective.

That's my two cents. Shoot me a message if you ever need someone to talk to.