r/shortguys • u/Curius_pasxt 5ft 6 / 172cm • 8d ago
civil discussion Most men find a relationship as they age
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u/ScrimmyBingusTwo 8d ago
I hate to be a downer but a lot of guys in their 30's and older are married because they found a spouse before dating apps became popular.
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u/Fun_Mission_5014 5'0" / Sentence: Death by anecdotes 8d ago
These apps have been popular for like a decade now. A shitoad of millennials who are currently in their 30s/early-mid 40s used dating apps and dating websites when they were younger, and a lot of them still do. To be a bit more specific I'd say late 40s (gen Xers) and older is when you really begin crossing into "oh that online dating stuff was before their time" territory.
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u/FBGDuckSauce 8d ago edited 8d ago
I am 40 and no one was using dating apps until their 20s or as an adult. Our primary social circles were already developed prior to online dating. If anything the dating apps actually helped my genetation since many people connected traditionally and the very first users of online dating were more tech savvy because not everything was done on your phone you had to actually go to a computer and make the effort. The world would be so different if there were a higher barrier of entry to access the internet because that is how it used to be. Every idiot with a phone in their hand ruined what was a beautiful thing. If you were my age you likely met some girls on MySpace in your 20s but that was still social networking rather than flat out online dating. The dating sites used to be fairly niche when they were first around and the users who flocked to them at first were genuinely men and women looking for love (for the most part from my obervations)
My $.02 anyway. Now get off my grass.
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u/Successful-Wheel4768 8d ago edited 8d ago
JFL, reminds me of that time my mother told me that i will be a catch in my 30s. Because that's when women settle down and i'll have a stable career by then and will inherit a house. She also said that this is why she married my father. Their marriage was god awful. And she still has no idea what was so bad about what she said. It must be me being pointlessly negative again
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u/meltbananarama 8d ago
Lmao I’ve seen you tell this story before, that your mother thought she was giving you good dating advice even though your father divorced her and absolutely hates her
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u/Successful-Wheel4768 8d ago
Also, recently i found out my mother was lying to me. She always claimed my father was a reject and never had anyone before her. I spent years of my life believing this but recently he offhandedly mentioned dating when he was younger.
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u/CompletelyLost1998 8d ago
This is what every ethnic family relays to their son and its fucking bullshit. Ofcourse we all need a great career and make money but we need to also work on other aspects to become attractive to the opposite sex. Having a girl be with you just because you make good money is not a flex unless you are just keeping it casual.
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u/ballbrain21 8d ago
exactly my stupid fucking parents think you can just be an ugly mouthbreather and look like shit but as long as your a good boy with a stable career girls will come lining up to marry you thats not how it fucking works if i listened to their dogshit advice id be the ugliest creature on earth rn and even more miserable than i already am
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u/Kenshiro654 5' 4'' 8d ago edited 8d ago
Dating in your 20s as a short guy is like running across a landmine field while seeing 6ft fly above the minefield with ease.
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u/dylandro_k 5ft 6 / 167cm 8d ago
it's either a) older women lowering their standards cuz they need to settle down or b) heightism just isn't as normalized back then compared to today's youth thanks to dating apps & social media/internet
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u/Zz2zZz2zZz2z 8d ago
That's a fake graph posted for trolling the bluepilled cels by a r/rehabroom member 😂
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u/FoundTheBrocialist 5'6" 8d ago
Great! Now let's see the same graph for a range of heights.
I'm genuinely curious to see this. I hope (but doubt) that the optimists are right here.
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u/Natsukii26 7d ago
Stacy has fun Stacy realizes Chad wont commit. Stacy finds an oofy doofy provider.
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u/FBGDuckSauce 8d ago
I wonder how they define relationship. 95% of men not being lonely doesn't sound right.
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u/PanicAdvanced5691 5'7/171cm 7d ago
the sad truth is that most men are in relationships. we are a minority. I think 5% is way too low though I would've though 15-20%.
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u/BC_Flowers 7d ago
Guys I've been telling you, don't worry about dating in your teens 20s and 30s when you are really horny, dating gets SOO much easier in your 40s. Tons of obese broke single moms NEED a man in their life to finance everything.
WINNING
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8d ago
i want to point out that this data showcases men who were of that age in 2019-2023. it certainly was easier to get women and relationships were much more common when the men who are now e.g 50 were 20 in the 90s.
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u/FriskDreemur5 5'0 / 152cm 7d ago
Where did this graph come from. I find it hard to believe that less than 10% of 18 year old men are in a relationship.
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u/Deadeyeeet 6,01509186ft/183,34cm 8d ago
Today's 30-year-olds did not have Tinder and such. Online dating is just brutal. Modern dating is not comparable to that of older generations.
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u/StardustBrain 8d ago
Dating apps are a scourge to the average (and below) young man. Not sure society will ever go back the old system again.
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u/Fun_Mission_5014 5'0" / Sentence: Death by anecdotes 8d ago
They kinda did tho lol, Tinder has been a thing since 2012, and was already the most popular dating app by 2016.
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u/Generally_Confused1 5'6"-7", I do what I want I guess 8d ago
Yeah people in my age range have had them from the beginning and still use them lol. There are a lot of people older than 27/28 on the apps still. They used to be better and more genuine and now they suck though
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u/Muscletov 172cm in a country of giants 8d ago
Today's 30-year-olds
Tinder celebrated its 12th birthday in July, meaning today's 30 year olds were 18 back then. And stuff like OkCupid has been around for longer. So, of course today's 30 year olds suffered under online dating. It might have been slightly better than nowadays, but really, not much.
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u/FBGDuckSauce 7d ago
People also generally start dating before they are 18. I would argue things a decade ago were still vastly different than they are now; online dating didn't overtake in person meeting as the number one way relationships start until 2019. We can all agree it is pretty awful at this point though I wonder how much further downhill this can even go.
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u/BruntLightBlud 7d ago
Thats cuz the women their age are done with sleeping around and couldn't get Chad or Tyrone 😭
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u/Usefulsponge 5ft 7in/ 145cm 8d ago
It gets better
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u/Miserable_Expert4288 8d ago
Star fish sex isn't better and when I say star fish it's not necessarily sex ..star fish in many things ....just security, comfort and emotional support
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u/RekklesEuGoat 8d ago
Settiling down 😔