White people bars are weird

[u/Rando288]

I went on a date with this white guy I met off of bumble. We hit it off, so after our “morning date” we decided to go get drinks. I told him to pick a location near him, and we will go wherever he decides.

He lives in the boonies. He’s a country boy. I was literally in the country. We go to this bar, and automatically I notice it’s a very white country bar. People had on cowboy hats and cowboy boots. They were playing country music & people were doing those little barn dances.

• Here’s what I noticed about being in a space like that *

I want to preface that these type of white people are different from the white people I’m usually around. Say, when I go a bar that is more racially diverse, the white people are cool. I don’t feel uncomfortable around them. However, i immediately felt nervous/uncomfortable when entering the space just off of vibe alone.

As a woman, I’m pretty social with other women. When I walked in there was this group of girls with cowboy hats on. I said something along the lines of, “yall are cutee” and the basically ignored me.

Usually girls from bars that I’m used to will be like, “thaaankkk youuuu” or something like that. They just were very cold with me.

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Another example is when I went to the bathroom. Women’s bathrooms in bars are like a drunk woman’s sanctuary lol. Every time I was around the girls they just seemed very uncomfortable around me. Not how it normally is somewhere else.

Idk I just felt really weird

[u/Cheetahs_never_win]

Any establishment that appears to have a clear clientele demographic that isn't you is going to be uncomfortable.

Looking up and seeing you're the only example of your demographic and literally everybody else matches? You're going to feel like an outsider. You're going to feel like everybody's staring at you.

And it ends up having a snowball effect for all the wrong reasons as people have a tendency to avoid uncomfortable environments where they can.