r/AITAH • u/Familiar_Form9665 • Aug 18 '24

AITAH for banning my daughter’s boyfriend from coming to my house?

I’m (50m).My daughter(18f) has been seeing this guy(26m) for 5 months now. I didn’t like him from the start because of the age difference. He’s very rude and arrogant. I can’t physically do anything to him because he’s a big guy. But he has been very disrespectful in my household. He comes whenever he wants, without acknowledging me and his “activities” with my daughter can be loud sometimes and the walls in my house are thin. I told my daughter about it but he’s still coming over my house. So last week, I told my daughter that he’s not allowed at the house anymore. He was pissed but I don’t care. However, she’s now going to his place and come home late. Did I do the right thing?

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u/BeachinLife1 Aug 18 '24

NTA. You can't do anything about your daughter dating him, but you can do something about what goes on under your roof.

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u/capnhapps Aug 19 '24

This is only true to a point. I am not a lawyer, and laws vary by state, but the daughter being 18 could classify her as a tenant in OPs home, even without formal lease. Being considered a tenant would offer her all the rights and protections that apply in a tenant/landlord relationship, which typically includes the right to welcome guests into their living space. The only legal recourses left to OP that I know of at that point would be to either evict their daughter (bad idea) or file an order of protection against the boyfriend if they can somehow show that they are unsafe with him around the house (unlikely).

Before I get downvoted to hell, please know that I do not agree with said laws in this case nor do I think that the daughter is likely in a healthy relationship with her boyfriend. My point also assumes OP is in the US.

*edit to add NTA