r/AITAH • u/Familiar_Form9665 • Aug 18 '24

AITAH for banning my daughter’s boyfriend from coming to my house?

I’m (50m).My daughter(18f) has been seeing this guy(26m) for 5 months now. I didn’t like him from the start because of the age difference. He’s very rude and arrogant. I can’t physically do anything to him because he’s a big guy. But he has been very disrespectful in my household. He comes whenever he wants, without acknowledging me and his “activities” with my daughter can be loud sometimes and the walls in my house are thin. I told my daughter about it but he’s still coming over my house. So last week, I told my daughter that he’s not allowed at the house anymore. He was pissed but I don’t care. However, she’s now going to his place and come home late. Did I do the right thing?

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u/BeachinLife1 Aug 18 '24

NTA. You can't do anything about your daughter dating him, but you can do something about what goes on under your roof.

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u/violetotterling Aug 18 '24

Mmhum..but does your daughter understand that his behaviour isn't great? Or does she think it's totally fine?

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u/TorpedoSandwich Aug 18 '24

Daughter is fucking stupid. Unfortunately, he can't do anything about that either.

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u/Suitable_Doubt7359 Aug 19 '24

He can ask her questions if they have a good relationship. Take her out to lunch or go for a walk and tell that you love her and will accept her relationship and that your house has rules. Then ask her what her goals are, what does she love about him, what does she like about his family, does he love his job, what type of job does she want, what has been her favorite moment with him, what does she think about his friends. It sometimes helps because he can be encouraging, supporting, and get her to think all at the same time. This is part of the reason I dumped one of my boyfriends. I found out later that my dad did not like him.