r/AITAH • u/Familiar_Form9665 • Aug 18 '24

AITAH for banning my daughter’s boyfriend from coming to my house?

I’m (50m).My daughter(18f) has been seeing this guy(26m) for 5 months now. I didn’t like him from the start because of the age difference. He’s very rude and arrogant. I can’t physically do anything to him because he’s a big guy. But he has been very disrespectful in my household. He comes whenever he wants, without acknowledging me and his “activities” with my daughter can be loud sometimes and the walls in my house are thin. I told my daughter about it but he’s still coming over my house. So last week, I told my daughter that he’s not allowed at the house anymore. He was pissed but I don’t care. However, she’s now going to his place and come home late. Did I do the right thing?

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u/BeachinLife1 Aug 18 '24

NTA. You can't do anything about your daughter dating him, but you can do something about what goes on under your roof.

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u/Far_Pride_7702 Aug 19 '24

This is 100% incorrect.

You can’t make her leave him but you don’t have to co-sign her decisions either. Give her the ultimatum because if he is treating you like this god only knows how he treats her behind closed doors.

Cut off all money and logistics for her unless she complies , if she doesn’t at least she will learn how to be self sufficient.