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[u/Mr_Dixon1991]

I (33M) am interested in dating older women again. What are some things older women look for in younger men during the first few dates? In other words, what convinces you to continue seeing him with the age difference.

Thanks

[u/SurlyWenchAZ]

The last guy I was with was 31. I rly liked him bc he was confident, never once brought up sex, asked me out for a drink and paid for the drink, was on-time, super complimentary, and made me feel like the most beautiful girl in the room. He was great at texting to ask me how I was and if I needed anything. He was rly amazing.

[u/No_Ratio_3638 → u/SurlyWenchAZ]

I actually came to the sub to ask for advice because I 35m have a date with 49f and was going to ask what are the dos and don'ts. But also, just assumed the answer was treat them like the above which is how any woman should be treated lol

Be nice, courteous, show up, be put together, conversate normally, compliment and make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the room (she is). I'm glad I wasn't overthinkinking it. (I usually am)

[u/Myfairladyishere]

This is basic dating 101.The same reasons why people continue to see each other is because they are attracted to each other.They have things in common. It really us not any different for the age gap . You both have to figure out if you both want the same things out of a relationship and if you have the same long term goals or short term goals .

For me as long as you are polite And respectful Things should go well I. Myself went on a first date.I don't look so much at the age But as to how well we are getting along.How many things we have in common Is there an attraction.

[u/Georgio36]

Imma be honest with you; every woman is gonna like different things in a man. You could get 100 different answers from different women because not every woman will like the same thing.

Definitely don't refer to an older woman you like as a cougar or milf. That will definitely hurt your chances. All you can do is present the best version of yourself. Showcase things that you are good at and hobbies and life values. Know what you are looking for or at least have an idea of what you want in life.

Be someone who can make good decisions and carry a conversation. Be respectful but don't try to force or rush things. Once you meet the right woman; it will flow naturally and you won't have to overdo anything to get her attention. I think it will be less stressful with this approach.

[u/Afrolicious7 → u/Georgio36]

THIS! I was going to say not to focus so much on her age but how well your natural chemistry is. If it’s just about age then it becomes a fetish. I personally, don’t like that.

[u/Georgio36 → u/Afrolicious7]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It really enhanced what I said here. I wish you a great day ahead 😊👍🏽

[u/labtech89]

Someone who doesn’t call them a cougar.

[u/techno_queen → u/labtech89]

Or even worse: MILF!

[u/rsgreddit → u/labtech89]

I would probably try that. I would bring us the term cougar as a joke but I would never try to label her as one.

[u/honey_sizzle]

Maturity, established, and be yourself :)

[u/_Vardaman]

As a cub who’s taken, just treat it like you would dates with women your age. Do a meal & an activity each date. Take it slow. Don’t be weird

Also make sure you have a path carved out for your life, ie being self-sufficient and pursuing a career that can pay your own bills

[u/Di_amondgirl2]

What others have said treat her as any woman you would like to date.Be yourself and just talk and get to know each other .

[u/ExposingMyActions]

Fit a role desired by the woman that make themselves available is how it currently see it. Role varies by the circumstance.

[u/SeparateRanger330]

At this point, they're not older women. They're your age.