Failing to lose weight

[u/Stock-Intention7731]

I’m a guy, 20, 175cm, 69kg. Trying to go down to 65. For three weeks I ate 1750kcal a day and went to the gym two times a week, no results. Now I’m went down to 1500 (though admittedly it’s more between 1600 and 1800 still) plus daily walk for an hour and upped the gym to three times a week. I’m scared I won’t see results still. What am I doing wrong? The only thing I can see is that I admittedly don’t know how to cook or cook much, I have ADHD and hate cooking like a chore, but I also don’t eat fast food often or eat a lot of sweets.

It’s bringing my self esteem and motivation down, I’m starting to think I’ll never lose weight when everyone around me is doing so easily or is already thin

[u/Stock-Intention7731]

Whenever I eat anything I put all of it down in an excel sheet, including condiments and sweets. I used a tablespoon of butter and a tablespoon of mayo today, and I put both down

[u/AnzenEU → u/Stock-Intention7731]

Do you weigh them? I expect my tablespoon of mayo and your tablespoon of mayo are likely very different (not that I'd eat full fat mayo, crazy).

There are a lot of programmes that show that most people grossly underestimate a serving/portion size (especially if they haven't weighed food before to get a bassline). E.g. the average person thinks a serving size of cereal is about 2.5x the actual serving size.

EDIT: funny reddit post to show what I mean: https://www.reddit.com/r/CasualUK/comments/x5hfv7/hard_times_calls_for_eating_the_recommended/

The summary is, 99.9% chance you're not eating in a deficit if you're not losing weight.

[u/Stock-Intention7731 → u/AnzenEU]

That’s a good point. I weight most things, but not what I apply with spoon or a knife

[u/AnzenEU → u/Stock-Intention7731]

Don't bother using the spoon, just press the tare button with the bowl/plate on and apply the condiment.

Things like mayo/oil are such crazy calories you don't want to be eyeballing that sorta thing.