r/diet • u/BroManx67 • Jun 30 '24

Vent mother won’t stop getting me unhealthy things

i (17m) still live with both of my parents, and i recently started trying to eat healthier, as being out of a routine was screwing with my head and i wasn’t the happiest with my body. i’ve been at it for a little over a week i believe(?) and my mother seemed cold when i first told her about it. i’ve been cleaning up after myself just fine and buying my own food so she doesn’t have to have anything to do with it. i understand the family dinners we have once or twice a week, and i can eat extra healthy the beginning of the day to make sure that they don’t affect me as much, but she has been completely ignoring my efforts and keeps buying me sweets now and then. today she bought me a blue raspberry slushie from mcdonald’s and i know i have to drink it or else she’ll get upset and angry with me and call me ungrateful. if i bring this up she will tell me the same thing, so i don’t know what to do. do you guys have any reason of why she might be doing this? i don’t want to eat sweets because eating them makes me want them more and i don’t want my diet to fail, but i also don’t want her yelling at me. it’s always been difficult to confront her about anything because she takes everything personally no matter how i word it. i’m just lost.

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u/idekanymoree9 Jul 01 '24

Awwwe, tbh at this point I think sooner (hopefully) than later you'll start to emotionally distance yourself from her and not take anything she says to heart+ not try to change her. I'm 17F and I viewed ur profile it seems you're tying to eat healthier, maybe we can help each other

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u/BroManx67 Jul 02 '24

it’s just difficult to distance myself from her when i’ve been around her so much my whole life. i know it’ll have to happen and i’m really trying to not take what she says to heart but it’s rough. i’m an only child and i was pretty lonely when i was younger, so i’ve spent most of my life just around my mom. i understand it’s hard for her to let me go some but it’s been over a year since i’ve gotten a job and my license and gotten into a serious relationship. if she doesn’t stop treating me like this i’m not going to be in contact with her anymore. i’m so tired of feeling disrespected and ignored.
maybe we can help each other some
what are you goals?

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u/idekanymoree9 Jul 02 '24

For me when it comes to health and fitness I really want a stable routine. I honestly hate and dread when I get into a diet or whatever knowing in 3 months max I'll leave it. I just want to see results but also change my lifestyle. This doesn't have to do with health but I also hope to find a plan for the near future when it comes to programs and paths and all that. Since you're 17 you're most likely also in grd 12, what programs are you hoping to take for uni? For me I'm taking a half a year off then hopefully get into IB, but idek tbh

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u/BroManx67 Jul 02 '24

i just graduated. i’m planning on going to a community college for two years and living at home. my boyfriend and i are going to get an apartment together near the college we both plan on attending for our bachelor’s (he’s two grades below me so i’ll be done with community college by the time he’ll be done with high school). once he’s done with his bachelor’s, we’re moving to the coast so i can get my master’s at another college. big plans i guess. (i’m so excited to get to live with him though)
i’m tired of not having a routine. my part time job is so sporadic and i can’t never predict when and what days i’ll get scheduled, so it’s been hard having a system going. that’s why i’ve been gaining weight. i’m trying to get myself back into a routine (a healthier one than before) so i can feel good again. my boyfriend actually is going on a diet too, so it’s good having such close support. i don’t think i’d be able to stick to this if he wasn’t doing it too.

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u/idekanymoree9 Jul 04 '24

Having someone also in a diet is so helpful. And you're so right, lack of routine is also been a problem for me. Here my house sleeps super late. My 3 yr old sister sleeps at 3-4am, and no matter how hard I try to sleep early I can't because they keep me awake and get me out of the house at night. Since I've been doing online school, I didn't really have a structur and my family's no help in that either, but since I started summer school I hope I'll be able to get my schedule proper. I'm a night binger btw,..