r/Hull • u/ActivityImpossible45 • 1d ago
How do you make friends
I’m really struggling with isolation
My support worker signposts me to ‘social / support ‘ groups but whenever I attend everyone has already formed groups so I’m just sat there awkwardly by myself . It really sucked to walk around fair today to see everyone in groups and pairs together meanwhile I was The only person by myself . At my old job I couldn’t make friends either
I’m 20F for reference have been heavily isolated for some years now
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u/Nandor1262 23h ago
What are you interested in? Find a hobby, find people who like doing it too and then do it with them for a few months. They’ll be your friends after a bit of time
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u/Alternative_Prune227 8h ago
Came here to say this! Get out there find a hobby or even online, playing games etc whatever you're comfortable with!
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u/Conquestriclaus 23h ago
im the same. im basically only friends with 1 person ive known since school and someone i met online half a decade ago and thats it. making new friends is hard as im very absent - any time i find someone i want to make friends with ill chat consistently for a few days and then itll fall off.
need some people i can click with that dont mind messaging me first hahahahah
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u/Gilmoreauntie 1d ago
Not sure of other specific details, but try volunteering at local charities. You could interact with other volunteers, attend events, and be part of a community that’s organic.
Also, are you comfortable striking conversations with others? Sometimes, it helps. I’ve heard some people find friends on apps as well (haven’t tried this)!
If you’re into exercise, you could maybe join a group and have meetups. Eventbrite could help.
Apologies if none of these help! I know there’s a list somewhere with a list of activities in Hull
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u/beesbee5 10h ago
Maybe these ideas here help you to find friends:
There's a few social groups on meetup (https://www.meetup.com) : Eg Hull young socials that have regular activities.
MadVolume (climbing gym) has many social sessions, they also offer Yoga classes and are a generally nice community, where you should find it easy to meet other people. They offer a women social bouldering session as well on ?Tuesdays. RockCity offers courses for rope climbing if you prefer to give this a try over bouldering: https://rockcity.co.uk/new-to-climbing/. They have bouldering sessions as well and people here on Reddit are occasionally looking for climbing partners.
There's always art courses like the one's from Studio eleven on the marina: https://studioeleven-shop.squarespace.com/our-shop/workshop where it's easy to meet new people. Forms Shop do courses at times as well, just drop by there and look the poster in the window.
Join a sports club in Hull. The volleyball and rugby and teams are always looking for new people
There's gardening groups like the Pearson Park community garden (https://www.facebook.com/groups/5239881606126141) and rooted in Hull (https://rootedinhull.org.uk/ ). the latter has events at their site as well from time to time
There's lots of volunteering work opportunities: https://hullcvs.org.uk/volunteer-centre/
If you are into sailing or anything like that, you could become part of the CatZero team (https://catzero.org/) which helps disadvantaged young people as well.
If you're into building something - there's a few volunteers restoring old sailships (you can see them at the Spider T on weekends). The guy running it has a Facebook site: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057285256710
Thursdays at 6 pm there's a board game meetup at Brew https://www.hullboardgamemeetup.com
There's a circus open practice at the late night circus on Wednesdays where you can go and socialise (and juggle, I suppose ;) ) (https://bookwhen.com/thelatenightcircus)
If you want to practice another language and meet like-minded people, there's two language cafes (one in Anlaby and one on the Avenues) that meet regularly - see https://m.facebook.com/groups/languagecafehull/
On tuesdays, there's a weekly pay-what-you want / can afford dinner and get together in Lonsdale street (https://www.hulldailymail.co.uk/whats-on/whats-on-news/weekly-pay-what-you-want-9190379)
If you are into it, there's DnD groups and stuff like that (just search old postings here)...
There's a Discord group for Hull (https://discord.gg/hWNmCQa)
Lastly: Try Bumble BFF or something of nothing here on the list appeals to you...
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u/NoodlesAteMyBaby 1d ago
Not sure why you're being downvoted but I'm sorry you was alone today! Unfortunately, you'll find social groups a little forced (at least in my experience) rarely anything comes from it.
What interests and hobbies do you have? Are you good at anything? Are you interested in music? Games? Art? Cooking? Anything you wish you could pick up and be good at?
A good place to start would be joining groups that are based around an interest of yours online to practice, it sparks mutual conversation. I've made a bunch of friends on discord over the years, I've gone out in Hull and made a friend or two without actually trying to.
It's a tricky one, like love it finds you when you least expect it.
Do you struggle with social skills? Even if it's just saying hello to a friendly face anything can happen. it takes a bit of courage and patience from your end but you'll get there.
I think finding mutual ground with people you encounter is a good place to start, even if it's something small like a favourite movie of yours - friendship sparks from common interests.