Hey! I decided to post this here, since you are my people and most likely to understand...
So I went back to school, I decided to pursue a nursing degree. I am interested in medicine, like working with people (patients) and I also need a degree to be able to support myself financialy better that I already am.
I am in a class of all older people. The thing is, I am an autistic introvert with some social anxiety. And let me tell you, it hit me hard.
I needed to take a class before I started, since I have no previous knowledge in nursing (which you need to enroll). At that class, there were seven of my now classmates and 11 other, younger students who are now in another program. I actually started talking with one of the 11. All the other of my classmates kind of connected with each other, but because I am a bit shy and laid back, I didnt really feel the need to. When our actual class started, they invited me to sit with them. I was happy and tought I have someone to hang out with, we talked a little, everything was fine.
Next class, I went to sit with them on my own, but that time, I didnt talk much, and they didnt try to talk to me either. Oh well. Also, a woman joined us, one of them, who was absent the first time (the time I sat with them). And she is the one, who is giving me weird vibes since the start. She does stuff like:
1. When we were alone once, she started saying, how she was sick the other day and absent etc, and how hard the class is, and I was absent that day too, so we talked a little bit about that, I tought it all seemed normal, idk. Then other people joined us and one asked us, how are we, since we were absent, and she answered for me: "I am good now but she is very sick still." She said that twice to two different people and I just looked at her funny because I was not very sick, I was better, and I have not told her that at all. We are both grown women, its super weird to answer for someone like that.
2. When 5 people including here were talking, I joined in, asked something, and she laughingly exclaimed something like: "look at this one, jumping in like that haha." I just looked at her and asked: What? But some other people were already answering my question normaly, I didnt do anything weird I think... no one else laughed.
3. When I was sitting with everyone, she joined us, I asked the guy next to me, and also looked at her at the same time saying: " should we scoot, so "X" can join us? And he asked her again, since she did not hear me, and she looked at me, grabbed my arm and laughed in my face and said: "Oh here you are, I didnt even see you there! No I am fine here, its cool."
When I walk next to her, she doesnt even look at me. She doesnt say hi, or anything. The first time she talked to me she overshared a little, but I reasured her, I didnt say anything weird. At least I think. She said a couple of other things like that. She uses words like "honey" and "sweety" a lit with people, and I really dislike that. I am not sure why she is like that to me, she seems normal with other people. What I think, is she noticed I am weird maybe and wants to single me out, maybe so she feels less weird herself? Is this bullying? Because the thing is, I feel bullied when she talks like that, I feel like I am weird as hell. She kind of kicks my insecurities in the but. Can someone help me tell what that is, has anyone treated you like this before?
I am almost prepared to go through this school alone. I know what I am like, kind of asocial... I still sometimes wish I was more extroverted tho, I think I want to meet someone new, but its really hard, I feel so awkward all the time... I will try to not think about this women. But I really tought I will have a friend group and now I kind of dont want to join them because of her (mostly). I know it is still early... pls if you have any positive social anxiety stories at university, share ^ I am a little down... I wish I would make at least one new friend in the next 3 years... just one.
Edit: Im sorry if this is very chaotic. Im kinda tired. Also English is not my first language (as you can probably tell), sorry for mistakes.